Deyemi Okanlawon Reveals Why He Doesn’t Turn to His Wife First During Tough Times

• Nollywood actor Deyemi Okanlawon has revealed that his wife is not the first person he confides in during difficult times, explaining that he relies on therapists and mentors before turning to her.
• He also encouraged men to seek healing and build reliable support systems, noting that while men are often expected to be strong protectors, they should not ignore their emotional wellbeing.

Nollywood actor Deyemi Okanlawon has shared his perspective on masculinity, emotional resilience and mental health, revealing that although his wife supports him during difficult moments, she is not the first person he turns to when life becomes overwhelming.

Speaking during a recent interview, the actor explained that men are naturally wired to endure hardship and protect those around them.

“First of all I am a man and we’re built to chest things. If you punch a man he has the ability to absorb that punch.”

According to Deyemi, his instinct as a man is to shield others, regardless of the circumstances.

“My job is to protect the people around me. If gbege happens here now, the chances are I’m going to step in front. It’s what needs to happen, there’s no excuse.”

Despite that mindset, the actor stressed that emotional strength should not stop men from seeking healing and support when necessary.

“Now you also have to be aware enough to find healing.”

Deyemi disclosed that he has intentionally built a strong support system, including mental health professionals and mentors, whom he contacts during challenging periods.

“On my speed dial I have people that if I’m going through the worst times that I can talk to. I have a therapist on speed dial, I have my mentors on speed dial.”

He added that while his wife remains an important source of comfort, he avoids placing every emotional burden on her because she already has her own responsibilities.

“Let me just tell you the truth, when the thing is just too hard, there’s my wife. She’s not the first… because she’s dealing with her own business and raising the family. But when it’s hitting me too hard, I’ll wake her in the middle of the night and tell her to help me.”