- Renowned Nigerian choreographer Kaffy discusses personal struggles post-divorce.
- At 45, she shares challenges in dating as a single mother of two.
- Many men are hesitant to approach her for marriage due to her status as a single parent.
Renowned Nigerian choreographer, Kaffy, has opened up about the struggles she encounters in her personal life after her divorce.
During a recent conversation, the 45-year-old dance icon revealed that many men hesitate to approach her for marriage because she is a single mother raising two children.
She expressed concern over the stigma society places on divorced women, questioning why motherhood and past marital experiences are seen as disadvantages. Kaffy pointed out that with the rising rate of failed marriages, being divorced should not automatically make a woman undesirable.
According to her, individuals who have gone through separation and worked on personal growth often make stronger and more understanding partners than those who have never been married.
Kaffy emphasized that true love should provide peace and reassurance, not fear or instability, adding that over 70% of marriages do not stand the test of time.
Her words …
“I’ve had somebody tell me because I’m a single mother, I can’t even think about dating me because I have two children.
99% of the people that criticize me about my marriage are either not married today or have left their marriages. What makes you think that a woman that has been divorced is not even the better candidate If she has worked on herself, what is the guarantee that the two single people today are not both going to be divorced people tomorrow?
Because why are people feeling like, I need to marry him fresh and I need to marry her fresh. But both of you are going into the same data that the world has computed for you. There are over 70% of marriages crashed. You are part of the 70%. There’s just so many stuff. Do you know that a lot of butterfly in the tummy is a trauma response? Real love brings peace, not butterflies. Real love is not supposed to make you anxious. You shouldn’t be with… I can imagine Daddy Freeze now, as he’s here now, and he’s thinking about what taste buds is doing in the house. He’s at peace. I’m still healing from those anxious feelings because of the moment I feel like I killed this I’m like, why would you do this to me? I’m 45, but I’ve spent the last 10 years of my adult life trying to fix it. My children were looking at us and I’m like, go. If you have to leave. Oh, really? Oh, yeah. You think I’m irresponsible?
I know how responsible I am as a woman. I don’t sleep around. I don’t do casual stuff. I heard even the, after I used him, his youth, after I used him to collect children, my IVF champion, because I don’t understand…”
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