- A Nigerian man shared his emotional story on X about his wife who disappeared for ten years.
- The wife left to visit her sister in Abuja, which was the last time he saw her.
- After a decade, she returned and requested custody of their children.
A Nigerian man has stirred widespread reactions online after revealing the heartbreaking story of how his wife disappeared for ten years, only to return and request custody of the children she left behind.
Sharing his experience through posts on X (formerly known as Twitter) under the handle @phveektordrayne, the man recounted that his wife informed him she was heading to Abuja to visit her sister. That moment marked the last time he saw her.
He later uncovered the shocking truth she had not just travelled locally but had relocated abroad. To his dismay, her family, including her parents and siblings, were aware of her departure and chose not to inform him.
A decade passed before she resurfaced, offering no explanations or apologies. Instead, she expressed her intention to take the children with her overseas.
How my wife abandoned us for ten years
“Ten years ago, my wife told me she was traveling to Abuja to visit her sister. That was the last time I saw her. We didn’t fight. There was no argument. No warning. She just… vanished. She left behind three children, the youngest barely a year and six months old. I waited: Days, then weeks, hoping to hear something. A message. A reason. Anything.
“Then I found out from one of her colleagues that she didn’t just leave the city, she left the country. Her parents knew. Her siblings knew. They all kept quiet. She abandoned her home. Her marriage. And her own children. Without a single word.
“That day, I became both father and mother overnight. And let me tell you, it wasn’t easy. I bathed them. Fed them. Paid their school fees. Stayed up through the night when they were sick. Cried silently when the weight became too much. I carried that burden alone not because I was strong, but because I had no choice. I know some people like to throw around the phrase “gender roles.”
‘But tell me what role does a father play when he has to do it all? What role does pain play when there’s no one to share it with? Fast forward to April this year. She came back Not to apologize. Not to explain. Not even to reconnect. She came to take the children. She said she wants to move them abroad. Just like that. And I said no.
“Now, I’m being called wicked. Selfish. They say I’m standing in the way of my children’s future. But tell me where was she when I was scraping together money to buy baby formula? Where was she when they cried themselves to sleep, asking for their mother? Where was she when I sat in hospital rooms alone, praying for fevers to break? Where was she when I was breaking? Now she wants to show up and pretend the last ten years didn’t happen? Even the children don’t want to see her. But she doesn’t care. She’s shown up with threats. Sent thugs to intimidate me. All because she wants her children. She says, “They’re mine too.”
“But what does that even mean when you walked away from them for a decade? I’ve raised them with love, with sacrifice, and with consistency. Today, we’re doing okay. I’m financially stable. They’re in good schools. They’re happy. And most importantly they feel safe.
“And now I’m the villain because I said no? So I’m asking: am I truly wicked for protecting my kids? Does a mother who disappeared for ten years still have the right to uproot them from the only parent they’ve ever known?”
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