- A Nigerian man has gone viral after claiming that men who pay their partner’s bills have the right to control their lifestyle, privacy, and friendships.
- His remarks have triggered intense debate online, with many women pushing back against what they describe as controlling behavior.
A Nigerian man has ignited widespread debate on social media after asserting that men who financially provide for their partners have the right to control their lifestyle and personal decisions.
In a viral video shared on X (formerly Twitter) by @ChukEricE, the man argued that modern men have become “too soft” in relationships. He claimed that financial responsibility should come with authority and influence over a woman’s choices.
“If I am taking care of you as a woman, paying your bills, and making sure every form of stress in your life is non-existent, I will control you,” he said.
He further stated that women should not dress in ways their partners disapprove of, demand personal privacy, or maintain certain friendships if a man is fully responsible for their finances. According to him, what many people describe as boundaries are often misinterpreted and wrongly labeled as insecurity.
The man also blamed social media culture, particularly conversations around “red flags,” TikTok relationship advice, and online narratives, for weakening men’s authority and confidence in relationships.
“I will check your phone because there is no privacy. If you have nothing to hide, there is nothing to hide. I will tell you the friends I don’t want you to keep, and if you don’t want to abide by my principles, nobody is forcing you to stay in the relationship,” he added.
He concluded that being serious in a relationship requires full alignment with a man’s principles, insisting that anyone uncomfortable with such terms should leave.
The comments have since sparked heated reactions online. While some men supported his views, many women strongly opposed them, describing his stance as controlling and unhealthy.
One commenter wrote, “So because he pays bills, I have no privacy and no freedom?”
Another added, “No amount of money should give someone the right to dictate how I live.”
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