“It’s Not About You”- Simi Slams Men Complaining Of Neglect After Their Wives Give Birth

• Nigerian singer Simi addresses men’s feelings of neglect after their wives give birth.
• She emphasizes that the focus during the post-childbirth period should be on the mother’s recovery and the newborn’s care.
• Simi encourages men to show understanding and support instead of resentment towards their partners.

Nigerian singer and songwriter Simisola Kosoko, widely known as Simi, has generated online discussion after calling out men who complain about feeling neglected after their wives give birth.

In a video making the rounds on social media, the award-winning artiste stressed that the post-childbirth period should centre on the mother’s healing process and the newborn’s care, not the father’s need for attention. She urged men to respond with understanding and support rather than resentment.

Simi highlighted the intense physical and emotional challenges women face during pregnancy and delivery, referencing painful medical procedures, body swelling, fatigue, and sleepless nights that often follow childbirth.

According to her, these sacrifices far outweigh any temporary lack of attention experienced by men, noting that such complaints ignore the realities mothers endure before and after delivery.

She also criticised the tendency for people to immediately ask women about their husbands shortly after they give birth, saying it diverts attention from someone who has just gone through months of bodily changes, risks, and potential complications.

Simi maintained that priority should be given to the wellbeing of the mother and the baby, not concerns about whether the father feels sidelined.

Her comments have since ignited widespread debate online, with many social media users agreeing that women deserve unwavering support during one of the most physically demanding phases of their lives.

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Read some comments below:

@salem4tweeter:”How is the daddy?” The question is usually asked after we have asked about the mother and the baby and having heard that they are doing well. We ask the wife how she is doing and the baby is doing. We ask the husband, how is his wife, the baby and how is he also doing. NO ONE SHOULD GO AND ASK THE WOMAN “how is the daddy?” because, obviously, there has been a shift of attention but oh well.”

@Bolu22942805:”Fact on fact… why ask such when the woman just gave birth in the hospital? That moment is for the mother n the newborn. did daddy push or contract?”

@alufa_joy:”Even after all of this that same, man will tell you after 4 months that your private part is not the same again after you use the same private part to continue his legacy to give him a child. He will tell you it’s not like when I met you it’s not gripping anymore. Your private part is loose.”

@GodwinLovett:”My senior sis suffered nerve damage. It’s been 2 months now since she put to birth and she is still limping on a leg. They said is “foot drop”. She goes for electric physiotherapy every week.”

@abass_ganiyat:”That’s not your moment,” and that’s how it has always been, but some daddies want peppersoup. Make una no come for me oo.”

@Don7thgarb:”You now see why the “daddy” must not be there? So the “mummy” can savour her moment alone.”