6- Dressing inappropriately
On first dates, you’ll want to impress the guy. But remember not to go overboard with it. Keep in mind where you’re having your date and choose an appropriate outfit.
On the other hand, dressing shabbily will give the guy the impression that you’re either a messy person or that you didn’t think it was worth dressing up for him. Don’t fret:
7- Flirting too much
Conversation during a date is between two individuals who are exploring the possibility of a relationship with each other. So, it should not be extremely formal. Yet, bear in mind not to appear too flirtatious or even inappropriately informal. Let rapport develop organically.
8- Questioning too much
It’s all right to be a little inquisitive about the background of the guy you are out on a date with. But don’t make the guy sweat by bombarding him with questions, especially on matters such as his financial stability. You wouldn’t want him to feel like you’re getting interviewed, would you?
9- Digging into his past
On your first date, don’t even think about getting him to talk about his past relationships with other women. Most men tend to discuss ex-girlfriends and ex-wives after you win their trust and start to feel comfortable around you. So, give him time so that he opens up whenever he thinks right.
10. Telling him about your past relationships
Unless he asks (most guys probably wouldn’t on the first date), don’t bring up your past relationships. A first date is the start of something new, not the occasion to bring out any skeletons from your closet. It will be unpleasant for both of you to talk about disappointments from the past.
11. Expressing negativity or insecurities on the first date
Transparency engenders trust in a relationship, but the first date is not when you come clean about all your insecurities or pessimistic thoughts.
12. Expecting a ‘father figure’
There are women who are on the lookout for a man who would take care of them and assert authority over them, like how their fathers used to. Re-evaluate your checklist and make sure you’re not on the lookout for a ‘father figure’.
13. Trying to be the ‘mother figure’ for the guy
Your date is ideally an independent, grown man who is capable of taking care of himself. Making decisions for him, such as insisting on him eating a particular dish off the menu even when he doesn’t want to, is going to make you appear bossy. So, leave all the fretting to his biological mother. A ‘mother figure’ isn’t probably what he’s looking for in a partner.
14. Discussing medical/ psychological problems
Almost all men set out on a date in the hopes of finding somebody they could bond with and have a relationship with.
So, avoid all unpleasant topics such as medical or psychological problems, on the first date. You wouldn’t want that to be his first impression of you, would you?
Also, if someone you go out on a first date with says that he has a health condition, however trivial it may be, you may not be too keen on having a second date. But, on the other hand, if he were to tell you about it five or six dates down the line, you would be more understanding and less dismissive of him.
15- Not paying attention to your date or being too critical
Appreciate him for what he is instead of finding flaws to point out. Don’t criticize him for his choice of clothes or based on what he chooses to order. He’s an adult and likely knows what he’s doing. Let him be.
The extreme opposite of this is to take your date for granted and completely ignore him. Strike a balance between the two extremes.
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